A client told me today, “I’m so tired after that session.” This is completely normal: when the nervous system finally moves from fight-or-flight to rest, you finally feel how exhausted you actually are when the adrenaline stops driving you.
Then she said, “You must be really tired after these treatments too.” I shared a few of the things I do to support myself, and she replied, “Oh yes, you have your tools.”
I looked at her and smiled: “So do you now.”
My chronic fatigue was a gift. A frustrating, difficult, and disheartening gift, but a gift nonetheless. It forced me to see that my perfection, controlling, pushing, and striving—the very qualities that made me feel capable, responsible, and recognized—were out of balance and slowly killing me. I was constantly in fight/flight just to prove I was enough and stay safe. I had to burn out completely to recognise this imbalance and this pattern and to realize how depleted I was at my core.
And here is the difference: Today, I’m actually tired. I’m end-of-year, lots-happening tired. My balance could be better, and I’m not using my tools perfectly. But this tired shifts with one good night’s sleep or one of my regular practices. It is NOT the bone-weary, foggy-brained, all-encompassing tired that nothing ever seemed to shift. Can you see the difference?
My secret? Learning to balance those necessary but out-of-balance masculine qualities of pushing, striving and fixing with the vital (and revitalising) feminine qualities of listening to my body, honouring my intuition, and inviting rest (plus more!)
You may be thinking: “She must get less done now.” Nope. The more I embrace this feminine balance, the more creative and productive I am—but from a rested and nourished place.
You may also be thinking: “She has some kind of superpower or special skill that I don’t or can’t have.” That’s not true either. I was exactly where you are right now before I learned the tools that made all the difference.
The truth is, you already have these tools. You just need to learn how to use them.
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