After chronic fatigue had me on my knees for five years I knew something had to change. However, I was too tired and too overwhelmed to figure out what change looked like and, instead, kept doing what I always did when I was overwhelmed - I did more: more supplements, stricter diets, and rigid lifestyle rules based on external advice. I believed effort always pays off, so I doubled down on what I was doing. When feeling overwhelm my default was always to do more and to do better. I've had to consciously unlearn this by tending to the nervous system dysregulation beneath it. I see this drivenness in my clients too. Even in the worst of their exhaustion, basically on the floor and crawling, they put their all into fixing and getting well. Of course I understand their desperation and their drivenness is admirable in terms of the extreme effort it takes. It also may well have served them many times. But at what cost? I discovered the change wasn't about adding more; it was about letting go and surrendering – old patterns, limiting beliefs, and the weight of holding everything together for everyone else. Only then could I make SPACE TO RECEIVE the nourishment, support, rest, energy, love, and, crucially, the intuitive guidance my body needed to find balance. Then the doing was an unfolding and flow that was far easier on my nervous system and far more nourishing. The surrender felt illogical and counter to everything I'd done in my life to feel safe and worthy. Letting go is vulnerable, especially when battling chronic fatigue and the loss of self. But consider Newton's third law: for every action, there's an equal and opposite reaction. Pushing hard creates resistance. While a flurry of activity – diets, supplements, research, constant thinking – might seem productive, it often leads to another crash. We need to stop to receive. Just as a phone needs to be plugged in to charge, we must stop and plug back into the abundance of life force available to us when we release expectations, pushing, and striving, and instead, trust. This is why my 1:1 Fatigue to Flow Coaching program follows an Assessment, Connection, and Release phase with a dedicated Receive phase. We must acknowledge what isn't working, feel safe enough to let it go, and then actually release it, creating space for what truly serves our healing. My coaching is a deliberate, phased process, with each phase building on the one before. We HAVE to start with signalling safety to the nervous systems and reconnecting to our bodies before we can expect any change at all. With that in place, receiving is not so scary and far easier. I also make sure to hold a space where clients always feel safe and supported. As one client shared, "I realized my anxiety, Type A personality, and expectations were making me sick. I needed a lifestyle and mental shift. Kerry validated my experiences while gently opening my eyes to areas for improvement. My confidence soared. She changed my life." If you want to find out more about my coaching to see if it’s a fit for you sign up for a jumpstart session today! In the meantime, here’s a little practice for you to allow surrender and receiving: Whenever you feel overwhelmed or exhausted lie on your belly on the earth (preferably on the earth if possible but it’ll work inside too). Feel the ground meeting you and supporting you. Imagine you’re dropping into the earth with each exhalation as you release and hand over all the stress, tension and overwhelm. Just for that moment see if you can tune into what it feels like to be held and to not have to have it all figured out yourself. Let me know how this goes for you!
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Kerry Magnus

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I’m always playing with AI. For instance, every now and then I ask Chat GPT what the most amazing thing is that it learned that day. Try this it’s fun! Then I decided to try this prompt as shared by someone I follow. I’m always up for some inner reflection and

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Kerry Magnus 6th January 2026 No Comments